Adoption may be on your mind if you’re faced with an unexpected pregnancy. But how do you get started looking for an adoptive family? How will you know when it’s the right fit?
There’s no denying that this is a huge decision. It is likely an emotional one as well. But being able to choose the right family for your child may make it a little easier.
Here are some tips that will help you make the right choice.
Make a List of Deal-Breakers and Desires
Chances are you’re already dreaming about what type of family you’d like to place your child with. You probably also have non-negotiable deal-breakers you are not willing to accept in an adoptive family. Make a list of all the things you do and don’t want for your child.
Asking yourself questions will help you make the list:
-Do you want your child to be raised with particular religious beliefs?
-Do you want your child to be the first child for the adoptive parents or are you okay with a large family of kids?
Perhaps you want to be even more specific: would you like parents who homeschool, parents who are creative, or parents who share your political beliefs?
Decide if You Want an Open Adoption
You may want some version of an open adoption, meaning you will maintain communication with the adoptive family and child. This could mean visits, phone calls, or letters. Whatever level of involvement you’d like in your child’s life, you need to be on the same page as the adoptive parents.
Don’t avoid nailing down the specifics of how open the adoption will be. The last thing you want to do is assume a family will be okay with you seeing your child, only to learn they weren’t as open as you thought.
If you find several families who match your criteria, don’t be afraid to reach out. You can start with emails or phone calls. You might find that you just get a certain feeling about a particular family, even if on paper they weren’t your first choice.
It’s important to trust your instincts with the adoption process. Even if a family doesn’t meet all your criteria, you may get a sense after communicating with them that they are a perfect fit.
Take it Slow
With such an important decision, it’s okay to take your time. Even though the prospective parents you speak with may be incredibly eager for you to make a decision, don’t ever let yourself feel rushed.
When you find a family you’re interested in, get to know them. Meet them in person and ask them questions. Get a sense of who they are and what life with them would look like for your child.
You have an incredible opportunity to select a loving family for your child. Don’t take it lightly and don’t let anyone else influence you. You are choosing the family who will raise your child, and you deserve ample time to choose which one you think is best.
Need Help with the Adoption Process?
Contact Florida licensed adoption attorney, Tammi Driver, for assistance with placing a child for adoption. Call 727-800-6681.